Do ALL women need to be dominated in bed before they can say they had good sex? Who made that rule? I know there are tons of women who like it, but just like with every other sexual preference, this is not a universal rule. I found this article (on Taken In Hand, a site for women who love male dominance):
Here is a quote from there:
“Having written about the attraction of the alpha male and masculine power, myself, I can’t help thinking that there is some truth in this – for me. But I know women for whom a dominant man would feel like a bully. These women seek men who are almost as soft as they are. (I also know women who avoid dominant men for political reasons in spite of themselves, but that’s another story.) One friend of mine and her man have told me that they love each other because they are both “soft and giving”.
So I have long thought that not all submissive individuals enjoy being with a dominant person, and that not all dominant individuals would be happy with a submissive person. To some dominant individuals, submissive individuals are insufficiently exciting.”
I can see what she is talking about, it is true in my case. I’m not particularly dominant, and I like men who are, like myself, not particularly dominant. Not “soft” perhaps, but warm, affectionate and loving. But trying to explain that to people who believe in game and that most if not all women are turned on by dominance, seems to be futile. If you are attracted to men who don’t dominate you, you just haven’t been dominantly fucked well enough. This is why I ask men who believe this if they have been dominantly fucked by a dominant girlfriend with a strap-on. And if not, how do they know they won’t like it?
Might as well tell a gay man it’s just a phase and he haven’t met the right girl and haven’t given sex with women a try. Do you really need to give something a try if you think it’s kinda gross and goes against your nature?
Not to mention you don’t really need to try a sex act before you decide it turns you on. There are romance novels, movies and even your own dreams that can help you decide whether you want dominance or not. If it’s not there, it might just not be your thing. It might change later in your life, but as long as you don’t have a pressing need for it, you won’t miss it.
“Why not try it anyway, just to see if you will like it?”
Because it’s gross, but that’s just me. I look at it like a gay man looks at heterosexuality. “You guys can have as much heterosexual sex as you like, I respect you, do whatever you want in your own house, but leave me out of it”.