When trying to discuss the relationship between genders in general, I sometimes get the response that I’m forgetting the gay people, transgender people, third sex people and anyone else that is not the majority. When discussing the relationship between the sexes, it’s usually implied it’s about the majority, meaning straight people. All the other ones I mentioned don’t always enter the equation in many arguments, so there is no need to think about them. Just like the air resistance is usually not taken into consideration when calculating the time it takes a bowling ball to fly a meter towards the ground. Is it a sign of lack of respect if I don’t mention these people when making arguments that involve valid approximations? I would say no. Whether you’re solving a physics problem or a making an argument about society, approximations are allowed to be made.
Oh, and someone calls themselves queer and you dare to confuse them with and call them a gay person, the reaction might be extremely negative, almost like you committed a hate crime. You must know what all those things mean (QUILTBAG, asexual, genderqueer, intersex, things like that).
I don’t have any problem with people who are different from the straight norm (it’s a norm because it reflects what is average, not what is “moral and correct”, so don’t come here calling me names because I implied homosexuality or asexuality is not average). I judge people individually and anyone who derails the argument by pointing to some group not relevant to the argument in hopes of making me look homophobic is a two-faced lying jackass, or perhaps just overly politically correct. If the group really was relevant to the argument, they’d state the reasons, but so far I haven’t heard any. Anyway, it’s nothing but an attempt to steer you from your main point and an attempt to make you look bad. Look out for it, no matter who does it (heterosexual, homosexual, feminist, MRA, whatever)