I love movies about crazy women, and will present some of my favorites. It’s not gonna be a post on how crazy all women are, or anything like that. But many of these traits are just an exaggeration of problems many have, and something to avoid. And unless one’s genuinely schizophrenic, there is often logic behind the apparent craziness.
This is an interesting version of the life of Erzebet Bathory, that Hungarian countess who killed hundreds of women and according to legends, bathed in their blood to make herself look younger. In the movie, she falls in love with a guy 18 years younger than her. He loves her back, but his father disapproves, so he and her lesbian friend feed her already growing insecurities about her age and how her new young lover is going to dump her. Then his dad actually forces his son to marry someone else and makes it look like he dumped her, which leads to heartbreak, insanity and killing/using blood as beauty cream.
Why this is familiar: Many women are insecure about their looks and attractiveness to men. There is a scene where she thinks she aged 10 years overnight, and sees flaws in the mirror others can’t see. This happens after her young boyfriend doesn’t show up for a date (due to being locked up, but she can’t know that). Even before any trouble starts, she second-guesses him and wonders if he really cares about her or not, even though he didn’t give her any reasons to worry. He frankly acts kinda beta.
Lesson: If you have a great thing, don’t fuck it up. Insecurities can be very damaging. They can make you believe someone who loves you doesn’t love you, and that you’re uglier than you are. Thinking all these things might drive you nuts and lead you to hasty, stupid decisions. Chronic insecurity can also be annoying for a guy to deal with, and what you fear might come true. At worst, it might lead to destructive ways to retain beauty, like anorexia or bathing in people’s blood.
Highlight of the movie: when she cuts a hole in her boob, puts his lock of hair in there and sews it shut. Ouch. But how devoted.
2:Juana la Loca
The main character in this one is not really crazy to me, just really silly. She’s royalty, so her marriage is arranged. Luckily for her, she falls in love (and lust) with her husband. Unluckily, he’s really hot, popular with the women and uses his options openly. This really pisses her off and she keeps making scenes, punishing mistresses and trying to control him, but it doesn’t really work and he doesn’t seem to care. In fact, he just dismisses it and calls her “crazy” whenever she does it. She isn’t really crazy, but very emotional and expressive, making her look crazy. After she finds out about his infidelity, she runs out in the rain, screaming “My husband is unfaithful!” and “I’m crazy!” among other things. Can’t say I blame her, but it’s not the best way to act when you’re a public figure.
Why this is familiar: you know how some women come to the manosphere and get all enraged and stuff?
Lesson: If you want to be taken seriously and look sane, stop screaming. Cheaters will cheat. And trying to change them by screaming and making scenes probably won’t make them repent and love you more.
Highlight of the movie: She orders a soldier to pretend he’s cheating with her to make her husband jealous, in an attempt to win his monogamous affection. It doesn’t work, but the soldier gets punished.
Lars von Trier seems to love making crazy woman movies as much as I love watching them. A husband and wife lose their child due to negligence. Wife gets terribly depressed. After long treatment with medication doesn’t give progress, he decides to treat her himself in their little house out in the country. It works for a while. Then he finds her old unfinished thesis that she was writing, where she becomes increasingly convinced women are evil and were burned at the stake for a reason. He also finds out through his son’s autopsy, that his son’s feet were deformed. He also finds photos of his son where his shoes are put on wrong, suggesting his wife has been putting them on wrong for a while. She finds out her cover has been blown, and does a lot of violent, disturbing things to keep him, because she thinks he’s leaving her.
Why this is familiar: It isn’t to me. Frankly, I’m not sure I understood the movie. Perhaps it was just long post-partum depression, which I heard can make someone feel convinced they have evil inside them, because their child annoys them and sometimes violent thoughts enter their minds. It’s a movie everyone should watch and decide what it is about for themselves.
Lesson: If it was really about post partum depression, then the lesson would be to seek help once you feel you don’t love your child and want to hurt them.
Highlight: damn, I don’t really want to even mention it. Lets say this movie contains a lot of genital mutilation (not what you think though), and it’s burned in my mind forever.
Also, this: (warning, it’s a SEX SCENE. But also more than that, which is why I’m posting)
Amazing movie, it’s like Jeckyl and Hyde, but female. The story is about a perfectionistic ballet dancer Nina Sayers. She’s hard working and very focused on precision and perfection, which is enough, until she lands the part of the Swan Queen in a new Swan Lake production. The role is dual: she has to play both the innocent Odette and the black swan Odile. The former is easy for her, but the latter is almost impossible, as it requires passion and a certain loss of control. But if there is one thing a perfectionist cannot stand, it’s loss of control and allowing small imprecisions and flaws to happen, even if they are beneficial. But she also can’t afford to do a less than perfect job with her role. This causes emotional strain, and her mind turns inside out before she manages to do the role just as she needed – perfectly.
Why this is familiar: it is familiar to me more than to most people, as I’ve been a perfectionist between ages of 6 and 21. Perfectionism can in worst cases split your personality, give you the perfect you, and the evil you that keeps messing up your life by making these tiny unforgivable errors.
Lesson: don’t be a crazy perfectionist. Sometimes things need to be dome as precisely and perfectly as possible, and sometimes it’s best to be less careful and more spontaneous, and let things go as they go. Perfectionists don’t do better than other people, they are often mediocre because their overfocus on small flaws takes too much time to master anything well. Perfectionism is also stressing.
Most importantly, don’t try to deny you have a dark side 🙂 Or it will catch you by surprise when you least expect it. By accepting it, you can find out how to manage it.
Highlight of the movie: When she finally allows her dark side to come through and makes the performance of her life.
I didn’t understand wtf the movie was about when I first watched it, but it has been explained to me that the first part of it is a wish-fulfillment dream, the second part is reality. This is a mind-fuck movie that takes time to understand. The simple reality is that the main character (Diane) paid to have her cheating girlfriend (Camilla) killed, and then kills herself. Diane is really “beta” – her gf is hotter than her and has more power in the relationship. It’s ok to break up with someone if you don’t want to date them seriously, but like Zooey Deschanel’s character from “500 days of summer” , Camilla invites Diane to a party after the dumping, giving her hope, and just rubs it in that she moved on and is getting married to someone else now.
Why this is familiar: I suspect this is more familiar to men in the manosphere.
Lesson: Move on! There will always be another woman. A bad one isn’t worth paying for, even if you pay for her to be killed. Not worth killing yourself for, either.
Highlight of the movie: this scene. Scariest “horror in broad daylight” scene I’ve ever seen, probably because I had that dream too once.