“-How to make people happy?
– First make their lives worse, then make it like it was to begin with”
Recently, I read some articles that asserted that our happiness is in our hands. I thought about it, and it seems mostly right.
1.I think many people in the West are their worst enemy. They say “I want to achieve X”, but they don’t act like it. A lot of people have a whole lot of time on their hands, and more resources than they know. There are some people with obstacles outside themselves in their lives, but they actually seem to overcome them!
2.People also never appreciate what they do achieve. So, you achieved a degree, and a mediocre job. Well, some people are not smart enough to even do that, or don’t have the opportunity. People who live mediocre lives seem to think it can’t get any worse. But yes, it can, and once it does, they want things to be at least mediocre again.
3. If you appreciated your life and current achievements, you’d also whine a lot less about minor things. That thing that seems overwhelmingly scary right now, will it kill you? Doom you to a lifetime of torture? If not, perhaps it’s not worth so much emotion. A lot of things people complain about are only serious inside their heads. Otherwise they would be miniscule problems.
4. Imagine you lived in Zimbabwe, where you can get killed for writing a political play, and get raped and have your baby thrown into acid so “he doesn’t take revenge”. How much would you wish to have what you have now? How many of your dreams would you finally fulfill, once you escaped a highly restrictive life, and had the freedom you have now?
5. If you wanted it as much as you say you do, you’d be doing a lot more to achieve it, right now. And if you never try it, you will never know whether you have the ability or not.
This old lady has a great figure and quite a lot of muscle. If she can do it, no one else can excuse themselves by saying “I’m a hard-gainer” or “I’m too old” or “don’t have enough testosterone”.
This lady has no lower half, but she’s a car mechanic and has a family. Seems happy.
And there is my granpa. He built a dacha (Russian summer house + agricultural garden) out of planks he found on the ground everywhere, survived cancer, stroke, broken ribs, punctured lungs, although obviously he doesn’t have iron health. He’s also an inventor, a morally and physically strong guy, and incredibly good with children. He’s probably the person I look up to the most.
Deserving What You Get – Facebook Edition (although I don’t think we deserve what we get, I agree with the overall mood of the post)
Apply An Abundance Mindset To Life (that’s right, you have more resources than you think).