Tip 2: Don’t be a reactive caring asshole.
After The Karamazov Idea was almost doxxed, both I and Free Northerner made posts about it. I noticed we both realized that the outrage is fueled by people who simultaneously claim to not care about offensive opinions, and at the same time spend a lot of time bitching about things they “don’t care” about. It culminates in someone deciding they are gonna do something to themselves, just to spite the blogger:
“I’ve been seriously toying with the idea of getting a tattoo for quite some time now but have been on the fence. Now, thanks to the Karamazov Idea… I know I definitely want one! So thanks a bunch douche bag!”
” This makes me want to chop off my hair to filter out people like you.”
“See, the thing is, your article just makes me WANT to cut all my hair off.
If that’s a promise that it’s going to put guys like you off attempting to get me in to bed?
Well hand me the clippers and goodbye Goldilocks!”
(Last 2 quotes are from Vox’s hair length thread)
Ask yourself, would you be a happy person, if you couldn’t go online without being seriously affected by other people’s opinions and preferences? Do the people quoted have control over their lives, or are they following a reactive life plan, defined by likely everyone else but themselves?
There will always be people out there, thinking nasty things about you. Some will think you’re an idiot, laughable, ugly, a slut (or virgin, if you’re a guy), sociopathic, broken according to their own standard, etc. Some people will even wish you would die. If you let them define you by doing the opposite of what they recommend, you’re still conforming and letting them have the power. You’re letting them win. Instead, follow your own plan, defined by things more important than random comments on the internet.