It’s been a while since I had a debate with the writer of theantifeminist.com . Basically, he said that he wants transhumanism to be used to remake the female sexuality into the male one from birth. He said female sexuality leads to many evils like high age of consent and false rape accusations. I don’t really have a problem with designer babies, and said so. However, just like men don’t appreaciate having their sexuality bashed, neither do women. Men don’t like being defined relative to what use they have to women, and neither do women. Men don’t like to be told their whole sexuality needs to change, because some men rape women, and men in prison. Women don’t like to be told their whole sexuality needs to be changed because some women accuse men of rape. The discussions of this issue happened here:
I understood that he has general dislike for female sexuality, and decided “whatever, he is who he is”. I haven’t attempted to talk to him more since then. He shut me up by telling me he is one of the few sex-positive MRA bloggers out there, and by criticizing his ideas I’m ruining the sex-positive MRM. I let it go, but he decided it was ok to create blatant lies about me. I sent him an email that warned him I would defend myself publicly if he continued, but he chose to go on. So now, I am defending myself publicly.
Here she is just yesterday calling on other women to stop wearing make-up, as well as shaming men for masturbating :
“Not only does she think that women shouldn’t make much effort to be attractive to men (and why should they, when they have 100% sexual power, even the old hags?) but that men are mentally ill losers if they choose to masturbate rather than be pussy slaves constantly seeing a woman’s vagina as the sole reason for their existence.”
Here’s what I actually said:
“Another thing I wish women could do, is not have to rely on makeup to look good. I think this is possible, but needs work, like makeup does. Lots of women say they don’t look good without makeup, but the same say those who are inexperienced with makeup, and thus make mistakes. If you spent all the money you spend on makeup, on a dermatologist and some procedures (no, not necessarily surgery, there is other stuff), you’d probably be happier now.”
“Right. But as you can see, I don’t have anything against makeup for the sake of pleasing your man. He already knows what you really look like.”
See? I’m for women taking effort to look good. I just think relying on makeup is stupid, lasts only one day, and doesn’t make a woman any prettier! I think more permanent solutions are more rational! And here’s what I said about men:
“I don’t think most involuntarily sexless men feel like winners. Those that are ok with no women – I have no problem with them. Whether they masturbate or not, they are free and don’t have a need other men have. I was not telling men they are losers if they masturbate. I was just describing observable reality.
Don’t tell me most sexless men would feel like winners, if only they were told masturbation due to sexlessness is winning. That’s the type of logic fat acceptance is based on. “If we only tell women fat is beautiful, they will stop having anorexia, bulimia, being so obsessed with their looks, etc.”. Yeah, right. I think men must have developed some bullshit meters against that. If you fall for it, someone else will be banging all the babes, while you sit and think you’re “winning”. But if you really feel like a winner then, good for you. You’re special.”
Obviously, I don’t shame men for masturbation. I just already know that men tend to feel bad and have low self-esteem, when they have to rely on masturbation! And I even accept that some men are outliers and are happy with just masturbation.
Oh, and that part where I call men mentally ill losers for choosing masturbation instead of sex? It doesn’t exist. Completely MADE UP.
“Emma the Emo does this a lot, as do some others, something I’m very uncomfortable with. For example, Emma defends female sexual morality as being superior to male sexuality,”
Actually, as in my post (https://emmatheemo.wordpress.com/2013/04/28/female-and-male-sexual-interests-are-in-conflict-must-someone-lose/ ), I view the two sexualities on equal terms, and don’t put any one over the other.
So why is he doing all this? Perhaps he has poor reading comprehension. Perhaps he is willfully misunderstanding me. Perhaps he never forgave me for debating him that one time, and wants to jab me over and over, by spreading rumors like a 12-year old girl. I suspect it’s a mixture of projection and seeing what he wants to see.
Projection, because he thinks male sexuality is superior to the female one. He assumes, that since I argued with him, I must be of the completely opposite view.
And he’s seeing what he wants to see. It’s apparent to me in every of those comments I linked to.
You think makeup has a negative side, and using money on more permanent beauty is smarter? Shame on you! You just want women to stop taking care of themselves!
You disagree that every time an average guy masturbates, it’s a grand gesture of liberation from women? Shame on you! You’re just using shaming language! [ EDIT: these are not direct quotes obviously, just a presentation of how he thinks.]
And thus, I can no longer take theantifeminist seriously. He’s irrational, dramatic, petty and dishonest.
Still a good MRA though. Go check out his site! http://theantifeminist.com/
P.S.: I will write a post about my motivations for engaging in this, if necessary.