This post will be about the drive for being intellectually simple and seeking comfort over truth. It will mostly be directed towards manosphere people (as they are the people I’m most familiar with), but it applies to anyone.
Some of the manosphere commenters seem to be unable to stick with the truth. They find an enemy and decide to define themselves as the opposite of everything their enemy is. That manifests itself as mockery of any blue pill commenter that comes across a red pill site, and doesn’t get everything right away. Or as denial that outliers exist. Or as bashing everything the ideological enemy says.
So what is the problem with this exactly? Am I just another woman who complains about the manosphere being “not nice”? Or am I just another person clinging to “NAWALT”?
Neither. I’m rather someone who experienced the seductive pull of wanting to use a broad brush and stop treating people as individuals, and rejected it. I’m convinced that general rules are general rules, and are important to acknowledge. However, rules don’t make exceptions non-existent. I acknowledge rules and generalities, but when talking to individual people, they remain individual people. I don’t do it for the sake of being “nice”, I do it so I can avoid losing self-respect when I end up being a bitch to someone and then being wrong about them. I’m also very uncomfortable with incomplete knowledge. But I don’t like filling the holes with whatever makes me feel most comfortable.
Second, insisting that NAWALT (or NA(anyone)ALT) is not an attempt to disprove the rules for me. Rather, I insist so because it’s fact. Biology is a fact, but it’s not fool-proof. We accept some kids are born with amazing abilities an average adult will never experience (think Mozart) and we accept some people are born with strange mutations, so there is nothing wrong with accepting some people don’t fall neatly into red pill rules. Actually I think it’s right to accept all truth, even the type that doesn’t fit into our rules and makes us uncomfortable.
Of course, not everyone who claims they are different, is actually different…
Third, one doesn’t have to disagree with EVERYTHING your ideological enemy says. Even a broken clock is right twice a day.