”Men just date younger women because they want to avoid their own mortality”.
This is a shaming technique. Yet when reading blogs around the ‘sphere, I can’t help but see there is a tiny bit of truth in it. During this blogpost, I will explain why it’s partially correct. There are only two places where this phrase is wrong:
1) The MAIN reason why men want younger women is their hotness compared to older women.
2) Women want to avoid their mortality too and aren’t immune to this type of thinking.
The manosphere blogs, especially those focusing on maximizing SMV and sexual&romantic success, are very youth-focused. One commenter or another will tell you they look younger than they are. If it’s a woman, they will say it helps them avoid the wall longer. If it’s a man, they’ll say it allows them to fuck younger women.
Actually, men need not worry about their age at all, apparently, since their SMV only increases into their late 20s and even 30s, and the wall can be indefinitely postponed by a man’s own efforts. There is never a time a man can say his time was horribly and irretrievably wasted. A woman, on the other hand, can. If a man wastes his 20s, he can improve in his 30s. If a woman wastes her 20s, she’s done for.
But when you look at the big picture, it’s only half-true. We only spend 70-100 years alive, and the rest of the time we’re dead. The online newspapers tell us our 20s are actually very important and defining for our lives, so we shouldn’t waste them. The newspapers don’t go far enough – your 70s are of outmost importance compared to all those millions of years when you won’t be alive! Wasted 20s is wasted 20s, no matter who you are. It’s 10 years of your very finite life.
By looking into this part of the manopsphere, you might think men have all the time in the world. The truth is, people don’t have all the time in the world. They really shouldn’t hope that a late SMV peak or a late wall is gonna save them from wasting their time on trivialities. Even if you peak/hit the wall 20 years later than someone else, you’ll both die anyway. A later wall will only allow an arrogant fool to waste more time than they would otherwise have wasted.
A woman should not waste her time because her prime beauty years come early and go fast. And a man should not waste his time because his life expectancy is shorter. A woman would be a fool to say: “I will live longer than a man, so it’s more ok for me to waste my 20s than it is for a man”. A man would be a fool to say: “I have a later peak/wall than a woman, so it’s more ok for me to waste my 20s than it is for a woman”. It’s never ok to waste your 20s. Or your 40s. Or 60s. Especially not ok to justify it, by saying the other gender has it worse. It doesn’t matter how much worse they have it, it won’t return your wasted time back. Ok, ok, if it makes you feel better, point at the opposite sex and laugh a little, but only for inner peace it brings you. Do not actually internalize those soothing pretty lies.
And this is why the old shaming technique is partially right. Postponed wall (looking young for women, game for men) and dating young people fools us into thinking we have all the time in the world. Thinking we have all the time in the world is pretty much the definition of thinking one’s immortal. Therefore, appearances of youth gives us “an escape” from death.
So, what is the moral of this story? Did I write this to depress everyone and make them mourn the years they have wasted? No. Mourning your years would be a waste of your current years, so don’t do it! I wrote this to remind people to make use of the Now, to remember not to waste their valuable time of stupid crap, and to live their life in such a way that they don’t regret it on their deathbed.