First, some background info on my personal tastes and habits.
I like fat men and women. They are hot and I want to accumulate more fat myself. You’d think I’m bragging, but it’s harder to gain weight than you think. It’s like the body opposes your wishes, whether you try to gain or lose. In that sense, I can kinda see what fat people are feeling, but on a smaller scale.
On the other hand, I realize I’m just not putting enough effort into working out and cooking tasty meals I can eat. I’m always busy with something else. I simply forget to eat sometimes. I really think skinny people who say “I eat all I want and don’t gain a pound” don’t actually eat all that much. They put the plate away once they are slightly full, they don’t eat for comfort, and overeat only occasionally. But to them, those times they overeat seem like a lot.
Apart from fat people, I also like truth and believe in not being a dick to anyone for no reason. I think it’s completely unnecessary to be nasty to someone who is fat. Or a drug addict, or tattooed, or into extreme sports. Bad treatment is only for people who are bad and deserve it. I thought the Fat Shaming Week was kinda retarded and immature. So in a way, I could fit right in with the fat acceptance crowd. I won’t fat shame anyone because it seems unnecessarily bitchy and probably won’t work. I shamed my mom for smoking since I was a baby (cuz I love her and feared for her life obviously) – and she shamed me for biting my nails. I told her I’ll quit biting my nails when she quits smoking. Today, I still bite my nails, and she still smokes.
However, I like truth too. And fat acceptance in theory (“be nice to fat people”) is totally different from fat acceptance in reality (“lets lie to people”). Kinda like feminism. Here are the lies and silly arguments I’ve encountered before:
1) “Fat people shouldn’t be made to pay extra for a plane trip, because you don’t pay for fuel, you pay for a contract”.
I heard that one once, but it’s worth mentioning. I can’t help but wonder how the author expects the plane company to earn any money, when flying a heavy person brings them negative income? I don’t think we merely pay for the contract, I do think plane company’s resources also matter.
2) “Don’t be a dick to a fat person, maybe they have thyroid problems”.
So what they’re saying is that it would be ok to be a dick to a fat person, if you knew they were fat because they ate too much? I would think one shouldn’t be a dick to anyone.
3) “Skinny doesn’t equal healthy, fat doesn’t equal unhealthy. Thin people can be unhealthy and fat people can be healthy”.
All of this is true, but in general, fat is not a marker of health. Lots of fat people don’t have high blood pressure and cholesterol. Hey, when my mom came to Norway, her health check revealed perfect health, even though she’s been smoking for 20 years.
An unhealthy thin person would not become more healthy if they were fat, they would likely be worse. And a healthy fat person would be even healthier if they lost a little weight through reasonable methods. Fat absolutely does increase risks of health problems, but it doesn’t mean you can’t become healthier without losing weight. And you can get away with being slightly fat, but would be wise to avoid being obese.
What I find silly about this argument is the implication that we somehow need it to prove being a dick to fat people is bad. It IS bad, whether they are healthy or not. And what I find atrocious about this argument is that it makes people think fat has no negative impact on their health. I’d rather know the truth about dangers to my health and deal with them, rather than pretend the dangers are not there!
4) Last, but not least, I would like to mention a general inherent problem that seems to be present in the fat acceptance movement. The ideas of health at every size, and beauty at every size imply that fat is just as good as lean, just different. But it rests on a false foundation, and thus doesn’t produce real happiness for people, unless they are especially attracted to fat like me. When I read fat acceptance posts, I can sense many of these people are merely tolerating their bodies. And they seem a lot angrier than fat fetishists and gainers, who are too busy enjoying fat to be upset about anything. Many can’t even tolerate the word “fat”, while I use it as a compliment and take it as a compliment. I really don’t think you can love your fat or other people’s fat until you at least get warm fuzzy feelings inside after being called fat.
I hate this lie, because it tells people “If you feel unattractive when you are fat, it’s all society’s fault”. If you feel bad, why not just change what you feel bad about, and not cling so much to what’s true “in theory”? Maybe you just don’t find fat very attractive. Maybe it’s not society, maybe it’s just your taste? Why force yourself to become a fat admirer, when you clearly aren’t?