Where does men’s physical attraction to women come from? How did it evolve?
In the ‘sphere, we generally agree that men are programmed to be aroused by signs of fertility. So it would be natural to be attracted to women between puberty/menarche and menopause. And this is an observable fact – men are most attracted to younger women.
A less known fact is the male preference for “years left of fertility”. A 30 year old might be as fertile as a 20 year old, but the 20 year old has 10 more years of fertility left, making her more attractive. This is also an observable fact – no honest normal person would say 10 more years make a woman more beautiful, unless she’s an outlier. If someone says so, they are most likely placating their ego, engaging in self-delusion, or simply don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. I haven’t personally seen many women who got hotter at 30, except with the help of makeup or weight loss. I have, however, seen women who did not get worse at 30. Most women I have seen are only slightly less hot at 30.
Having said that, men inexplicably fuck old, post-menopausal women too. You’d think a woman who checks neither of the boxes would be sexless. But it is simply isn’t true in the real world. I guess the fact that women are the gatekeepers of sex is so powerful, it ends up covering the old infertile women also. Men don’t stop wanting sex with their wives after they hit menopause. If it was true, would there be any stories about men complaining “She is done with sex after menopause, what am I to do?..” And if it were true, would 20-something betas go to older single women to gain confidence and experience?
I think I know what draws them in, and it makes evolutionary sense. Older women still have many of the features of a fertile woman – the figure, the voice, the feminine face. It costs a man nothing to give up some sperm to a woman who might still potentially be fertile, right?
That, in term leads me to believe that if it makes sense that old, infertile women are still attractive enough, so are the young girls who are just starting to get the features of a fertile woman. Girls don’t go from curveless children to curvy women at 18 (or 16.. or 14). As someone who’s been all those ages, I know. I know that men will be hitting on you the moment you have something out of the list of features that a fertile woman commonly has. Most of those men will be of the non-law-abiding type, of course. But now I’m convinced that lots, and lots of normal, law-abiding men have “look, but don’t touch” feelings about 11 and 12 year old girls. And it’s not pedophilic at all. Same way being attracted to Helen Mirren’s figure in a red dress is not gerontophilic.